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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

A Tale of Two Besties

Dear BJ,

I'm sure you have noted Mindy's interview in the June edition of InStyle magazine:

"And for those holding out hope that she and ex (both in real life and on The Office) Novak will reconcile, well, Kaling is stoking the fire. “I will freely admit: My relationship with B.J. Novak is weird as hell,” she says. “He is not my boyfriend, but he is not exactly my best friend. I guess you could describe our relationship as a ‘romantically charged camaraderie with loud arguments,’ but I don’t think Facebook would accept this as a new status.”

Ben, read between the lines. If you're really one of her best friends, then you'll understand why she qualified your relationship this way (for the first time I can remember) in this interview.  

Don't act like you didn't notice. Don't act nonchalant. Don't act like you're not reading this blog right at this very moment (okay, fine, I'll give you a pass on the last one).

You know damn right what you do!

It's not fun to be regularly played out in the media, especially by a friend. No ex wants this recap of their relationship to be told to anyone, forget the national media. 

Why be so calculatingly ambivalent? What are you so afraid of dude? 

Years later, as recently as an interview published this month, you continue to stick to this story ("We never really split up as we were never really together."??!). This story sucks though. And, it's so transparent when you do it. It's like a book with no pictures but also with gibberish for words and gaping holes in it. Literally, giant holes in the book itself into which you can poke your whole head to see right through it. 

You know how refreshing it would be for the new script to go something like this:
"Yes, we shared a relationship and although it didn't work out romantically, she is someone I continue to care about and I value our friendship."

You're too smart to act dumb about this. I also hope you value Mindy enough to acknowledge it, apologize and move on. Your friendship is worth it. She'll forgive you if you do and then you can make up and be besties again.
*"Ben, most people would turn you away, I don't listen to a word they say, They don't see you as I do, I wish they would try to, I'm sure they'd think again,
If they had a friend like Ben
*Original version available here.


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