Merry Christmas Mindy & The Rainbow Connection

Dear Mindy,

The busy holiday season got the better of me and it's been a while since I've posted. However, I did not want to close out 2015 without acknowledging you my dear. You've had an incredible year - new home for your show, new book, and... perchance new lovers like no other? 

I realized I initiated this blog in January 2015, although it took me a couple of months to really get it going - and it was about a month after that you blocked me- which was pretty amazing. I didn't cover all the topics I had in mind but I picked up some cool followers and Instagram Mindians along the way. I also choose to believe you may have possibly shouted me out on your show -just let me have this delusion guys. All in all, it was a blast in the past.

Now, on to the future. I am convinced that one day you will star in my epic movie or musical blockbuster of all time. I tell myself that I will wait until the wrap party to drop my secret-blogger past on you but I know that I will not be able to contain myself past the initial casting lunch. This will give you momentary but inconsequential pause about joining my production. Even more fame and fortune will follow. We will eventually co-godparent Franco's adorable bastard twins. It will all be so amazing. 

But I must write it for this to come. Therefore, blogging must give way. It won't be goodbye forever. I may even post from time to time. And if you are ever in need of some noble-hearted rando, just give me a sign - maybe an unblocking?

Remember when you were younger, and for motivation you thought of the awesome peeps you'd befriend once you made it; mine would be you. 

Yours Truly.

What's so amazing

That keeps us stargazing

And what do we think we might see

Someday we'll find it

The rainbow connection

The lovers, the dreamers, and me

Mother's Day

Blog Over Troubled Water

Dear Mindy,

The Mindy Project was cancelled by Fox. Despite reports that Hulu may step in to continue the series, this is probably unwelcome news. 

You created and have been running an internationally recognized enterprise, garnering the praise and adoration of your still faithful fans, but exposing yourself to a world of scrutiny and critique, and now also to its "derision for disappointed hopes." 

Simultaneously, you have shouldered the responsibility of the livelihoods, careers, and expectations of all the people on your team. This too must be an incredible burden.

You answer not only for these professional considerations, but are also unrelentingly examined about your race-consciousness and related obligations, your appearance, your relationships, lack of relationships, past relationships, your current relations with your past relations, and even your brother.  

However, all of these pale in comparison to the soul-crushing pain of losing the love of your life. It is this quote from you in next month's edition of InStyle Magazine that seems to put things in perspective. 

Kaling's mother, Dr. Swati Chokalingam, an OBG/YN, died on Jan. 30, 2012 after battling pancreatic cancer. That day, the actress was told The Mindy Project had been picked up by Fox, according to The Boston Globe. On the show, Kaling played an OBG/GYN.
"I was very lucky that the show started up at that time so I could just throw myself into it and distract myself," Kaling told InStyle. "But the truth is, even though it's been three years, it still feels like it just happened. I remember the sound of her voice so distinctly."

Outstanding timing Fox - this Sunday is Mother's Day.

Your Mother was your biggest supporter, driving force, and comfort. For all the accolades, wealth or fame you could obtain, your parents' tremendous pride in your accomplishments were likely the most gratifying.

Before your glory on The Office, you were a rookie, with the defiant courage of one who has everything to prove but no record to plague her. Embarking independently on the next phase of your professional journey must have been scary - and fused along with it are your final days with your mother, like fabric from your favorite outfit of all time seared permanently into your flesh from a third-degree burn. It fucking hurts.  

As the dream of your own television show was materializing, you were living a personal nightmare. It's heartbreakingly unfair that you were forced to move on without her, not just with your show, but with the rest of your life. In grappling with your grief, The Mindy Project may have been diversionary with the enormity of the work involved but therein also remained a lingering connection to your Mother. Any new venture, professional or otherwise, would painfully widen the gap between your life now and your life when she was in it. The road ahead would be navigated without the benefit of having discussed it with her already. 

Some part of you must have known that there would be this reckoning, whether the Mindy Project came to its end this past week or years from now - confronting the loneliness from feeling your Mother's absence even more than you did when you lost her. 

I don't know when you took the picture for this cover and whether you already knew the fate of The Mindy Project. You look beautiful.

Sail on Silver Girl. 

Ice Cream Castles in the Air: One Single Gal Hopes for Prince Charming

Vera Mindy Chokalingam was born on June 24, 1979, in Cambridge, Massachusetts, to Avu, an architect (the designated rom-com profession of the "handsome, charming, successful man"* and psuedo career of George Costanza) and Dr. Swati Chokalingam (an accomplished ob/gyn, possibly the female Dr. Huxtable**).

*as noted by Mindy in her New York Times best-seller, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)
** beloved 80's/pre-rapey-Cosby association 

*Not actually Mindy but as precious as she must have been.

A precocious child with a dark chocolate Punky Brewster face, Mindy shunned strangers after being scared shitless by Kimberly's kidnapping and the unrelated but also traumatizing Bicycle Man on Different Strokes. 

*Mindy childhood collage of happiness and dreams. Pics owned by Mindy's parents.

Ever the eternal optimist, Mindy dreamed of growing out her hair, picking out her own clothes and falling in love with an older college boy. Devastated by Sandy's death on Growing Pains, Mindy took solace in comedy. 

Comedy meant more than a good laugh. 
Comedy meant freedom - the night when she could finally stay up past curfew to watch SNL as it aired live from New York City and not in reruns on Comedy Central. Ironically, now she's too happening to bother. Shame on them for not actually getting Mindy to host yet!

Comedy meant friendship - "Wayne's World! Party Time! Excellent! Schwing!"

Comedy meant acceptance - through a powerful amulet she lost in a past life, Mindy cast a spell to become the most popular girl - and that shit worked!  

Rom-Comedy (with a smattering of sci-fi if it involved David Duchovny) meant love. The man of her dreams would make her feel like "Sally" not faking it for her very own dirty "Harry" (Billy not Clint) and would rival Colin (English to marry; Irish to screw/kill).   

Now, we're on a mission to cast the part of a lifetime. If you think you're the hero of Mindy's love story, comment here or email telling us why. Then we'll feature your profile here on this site. Who knows what may come of it? Would Mindy even take notice? Stranger things have been documented - like everyone knowing the Thriller choreography and actually joining Jennifer Garner in this scene of 13 Going on 30 (yes, that more so than the movie's base premise).

Coming Soon!